Christmas tips for a healthy & happy festive season….

smythson-Christmas-cardsWell there is no getting away from it – the shops are full of sparkle. They are also full of expensive gifts we may not have the money for and are playing background music that grates like nails down a chalkboard. With only a few weeks left until Christmas we thought that our popular  ‘Relationship Tip of the week’ slot should morph seamlessly into a ‘Christmas Tip of the Week’. It can be a stressful and difficult time of the year for many people, of any faith or none.  Saying, bravely, “Well it’s just a few days,’ can end up having a detrimental affect on health, sleep and general well-being.

So here on  ‘let’s talk’ Jane Gotto is offering some sage advice to ensure our relationships have the resilience to last beyond the festive season. The top tip is not to agree to anything you do not want to do – it creates stress and there are usually alternatives which  create a happier event for everyone.  Talking through options now can smooth the way for a better time together.

So Christmas tip No.1 is:

Think about what you would like to do for Christmas.

If you are filled with dread, allow yourself time to think it through and come up with some alternatives. Talk to others about what would work for you, and find out how a change or re-organisation would affect other people. Do NOT allow yourself to be pulled into an arrangement which you know is not going to work for you. If you cannot say ‘No’ outright, say you would like some time to think about it and let the other party know a time when you will get back to them.

Jane Gotto. UKCP Reg. Psychotherapist

In future weeks, right up until the big day,we will be passing on some ideas to make sure the year ends with relationships unstrained and health intact. If you have any tips of your own to ensure the festive season retains its message of hope and peace, we would love to hear them.

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By popular demand – a digest of our ‘Relationship tips of the week’

quotesFor the past three months or so The Terrace has been sharing a ‘Relationship tip of the week’ on Facebook each Friday. Short sentences of supportive words to take into the weekend, they have proved very popular so we thought a digest of tips might be useful. Perhaps you have missed one or two, or are new to our Facebook page. Or maybe you are a fan and would like to see them all together for the first time….

So – here they are. Not all of them will have meaning for you, but something will resonate and we would love to know what your feelings are as you read them. Is there a topic you would like Jane to cover? Could they be shorter? Longer? Clearer? Would you like more than one a week?  Do comment below (or better still, ‘like’ our Facebook page to comment each week) and we will be certain to take everything you say into account as we continue to offer the words for the weekend, and for life.

‘Change takes time – change needs patience, care and attention.’

‘Constant joke making and laughing can deflect from saying what you think. Reflect – what is the function of making jokes all the time. What am I avoiding saying?’

‘Forming a shared dream is a relationship maker’

‘Do I look away when I am saying something which I find difficult? Check yourself out.’

‘Am I feeling gratitude for what I do have in my relationship? If not, think of 5 gratitudes. See what difference this makes.’

‘Less is more – going on and on does not work. Figure out what you would like to say, shave it down to one ‘digestible’ sentence, then say it.’

‘Speaking loudly does not get us heard. Speaking softly but clearly gives us a better chance of being heard.’

‘Being assertive is different from being aggressive. We need to be assertive to say what we believe in.’

‘People come together through their similarities, but they grow an intimate relationship through managing their differences.’

‘Taking your time is no sin! Reflective responses can hold true meaning.’

‘If I am not saying who I am, and what I stand for, then the other cannot know me…’

‘Communicating anger is well done when you are no longer feeling it. …’

‘Notice – am I listening? Or just formulating my response? Listen, receive the information, and then see how you would like to respond.’

‘What is important is what the other hears and takes in – not what you say. Check what they have heard. It may be different from what you intended to say….’

(From Jane Gotto, UKCP Reg Psychotherapist & Founder of The Terrace)

Acupuncture for Health

At The Terrace we are keen to ‘demysify’ some of the therapies that may still be something of a mystery to many. Complimentary therapies can offer wonderful health benefits, but it is important that anyone considering a treatment is fully informed about what to expect.

So today we look at acupuncture.

Acupuncture has been practised in China for about 3,500 years, although the exact date of its origin is not known.  A legend says that this complex healing system developed when it was noticed that soldiers who survived arrow wounds in battle sometimes also recovered from other long-standing ailments. In the intervening years it has been thoroughly researched and practised. Indeed, one-quarter of the world’s population rely on it.

However, there are some who are still reluctant to try acupuncture as a therapy. We are fortunate, here at The Terrace, to have an exceptionally well-qualified and committed practitioner working with us.

alsion courtneyAlison Courtney, registered acupuncturist and Chinese herbalist for 20 years, has returned from Guangzhou in China having received high recognition after successfully completing her MSc in Chinese medicine.

Alison is passionate about the therapeutic effects of acupuncture, using the traditional magnetic methods of pulse and tongue observation. Imbalances are addressed by inserting fine needles into acu-points to restore health and harmony.  Some key conditions treated include tension or migraine headaches, back and neck pain, osteoarthritis and temporomandibular pain.

Her observational methods include an  inspection of your tongue, skin texture and colouring, hair texture, posture and movement. Voice is also important.

A full medical history will be taken and an understanding of lifestyle, stresses and sleep patterns is key.

Some people worry that acupuncture is painful, but it is primarily relaxing and you may be left feeling so relaxed that sleepiness is the main response. Fine. disposable needles are used and left in for between just a few minutes to up to half an hour, depending on the condition treated. Most people find it painless, although there may be a slight tingling sensation at the point of entry as the ‘meridians’ or acupuncture points transfer energy and re balance. Give yourself plenty of time, avoid strenuous activity and, if possible, rest for a while.

Alison is offering you a free 20 minutes to talk about any health concern and gauge whether acupuncture could be helpful for you.  You can come into The Terrace at a pre-arranged time or have a telephone call.

Ring 01823 338968 to speak with Alison,  or email post@the-terrace.co.uk

 

welcome!

Jane

Jane Gotto

The Terrace Humanistic Psychotherapy and Complementary Health Centre is based in Taunton, in the heart of the beautiful county of Somerset. Many therapists work with us, offering a wide range of counselling services, complementary health and massage and manipulation therapies.

Here at The Terrace we have become increasingly aware of the importance of raising awareness of the importance of our emotional and physical well-being. Engaging via social media and this blog is our way of communicating those messages we consider important.

We hope you will find what we have to say interesting. We don’t expect you to agree with everything we have to say; in fact we would like to encourage debate and the therapists who work with us will be happy to share their own thoughts on both psychotherapy and complementary therapies.

We hope to dispel some some of the myths around the different types of therapy available and why there are different approaches in practice, acknowledging that there is no ‘one size fits all’ solution to complex issues.

So do please comment and share your thoughts. You can like us on twitter as @terraceclinic and on Facebook at www.facebook.com/TheTerraceTaunton. To find out more about us and the therapies we offer see our website at http://www.the-terrace.co.uk.

Thank you for listening. Lets Talk!

Jane Gotto

Founder & Director, The Terrace, Taunton.